RESOURCES

The training resources below are freely available for trainers to use and share.

If you’re not a trainer you are still welcome to download the content, but it won’t be as useful until you take part in a training.

We strongly recommend contacting your country coordinator (you can find your country in the menu) and asking them when the next Dad’s Talk (level 1) training is happening in your area. If you aren’t ready for a training yet the best place to start is the book The World Needs A Father: A Trainer’s Guide, or the Plug ‘n Play project.

Books

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The World Needs A Father: A Trainers Guide 4th edition (2020, paperback)
Cassie Carstens

Drawing from decades of first-hand experience and a wealth of academic research, this book delves into the depths of the catastrophe that is fatherlessness, laying it open from an academic and personal perspective, and presenting a thorough, practical solution. It will challenge you, convict you, and encourage you to be the best father you can be within your context. This version has been updated and expanded to include new research, provide deeper insights, and includes more practical tool to help you bring heaven home.

Click here to buy The World Needs A Father: A Trainers Guide 4th edition (paperback) on Amazon


The World Needs A Father: A Trainers Guide 1st edition (2014, ebook)
Cassie Carstens

If the family unit is a fundamental building block of society, the nucleus of that unit is the father, and when he causes damage, the ripples affect everyone. Drawing from decades of first-hand experience and a wealth of academic research, this book delves into the depths of the catastrophe that is fatherlessness, laying it open from an academic and personal perspective, and presenting a thorough, practical solution. It will challenge you, convict you, and encourage you to be the best father you can be within your context.

Click here to buy The World Needs A Father: A Trainers Guide 1st edition (ebook) on Amazon


Fishing For The Village
Cassie Carstens, George Kellerman

Do you want to be part of building a disciple-making community that brings heaven to earth? In a world full of churches and Christian content, why does discipleship seem irrelevant to so many Christ-followers today? Why have we settled for being Christian consumers, instead of accepting Jesus’ call to be disciple-makers and vital Kingdom DNA builders? This book is a marvellous tool for anyone interested in making the shift from a consumer of content to a creator of Kingdom culture through disciple-making. If you need a framework for practical discipleship in your context, or want to hear the pulse of a vibrant discipleship movement, this book is for you. It will challenge how you understand and live out the biblical truths of making disciples, and give you a solid foundation for creating a community that brings heaven to earth.

Click here to buy Fishing For The Village on Amazon

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts
Gary Chapman

Falling in love is easy. Staying in love—that’s the challenge. How can you keep your relationship fresh and growing amid the demands, conflicts, and just plain boredom of everyday life? In the #1 New York Times bestseller The 5 Love Languages, you’ll discover the secret that has transformed millions of relationships worldwide. Whether your relationship is flourishing or failing, Dr. Gary Chapman’s proven approach to showing and receiving love will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your partner—starting today.

Click here to buy The 5 Love Languages on Amazon


The Starfish and the Spider: The Unstoppable Power of Leaderless Organizations
Ori Brafman & Rod A. Beckstrom

If you cut off a spider’s head, it dies; if you cut off a starfish’s leg it grows a new one, and that leg can grow into an entirely new starfish. Traditional top-down organizations are like spiders, but now starfish organizations are changing the face of business and the world. Ori Brafman and Rod Beckstrom have discovered some unexpected answers, gripping stories, and a tapestry of unlikely connections. The Starfish and the Spider explores what happens when starfish take on spiders and reveals how established companies and institutions, from IBM to Intuit to the U.S. government, are also learning how to incorporate starfish principles to achieve success.

Click here to buy The Starfish and the Spider on Amazon


Love Leadership: The New Way to Lead in a Fear-Based World
John Hope Bryant

Written by the founder of Operation HOPE and advisor to the past two U.S. presidents, this groundbreaking book makes the case that the best way to get ahead is to figure out what you have to give to a world seemingly obsessed with the question: What do I get? Aimed at a new generation of leaders and extremely relevant for today’s economic climate, Love Leadership outlines Bryant’s five laws of love-based leadership-Loss Creates Leaders (there can be no strength without legitimate suffering), Fear Fails (only respect and love leads to success), Love Makes Money (love is at the core of true wealth), Vulnerability is Power (when you open up to people they open up to you), and Giving is Getting (the more you offer to others, the more they will give back to you).

Click here to buy Love Leadership on Amazon


The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness
Stephen R. Covey

Accessing the higher levels of human genius in today’s new reality requires a change in thinking: a new mindset and a new skill-set—in short, a new habit. The crucial challenge of our world today is this: to find our voice and inspire others to find theirs. It is what Covey calls the 8th Habit. The 8th Habit is the answer to the soul’s yearning for greatness, the organization’s imperative for significance and superior results, and humanity’s search for its “voice.”

Click here to buy The 8th Habit on Amazon


Raising a Modern-Day Knight: A Father’s Role in Guiding His Son to Authentic Manhood
Robert Lewis

What does it mean to be a man? Moreover, how do you as a father instill that reality in your son? By Raising a Modern-Day Knight. The medieval custom of knighthood offers a unique approach to shaping a boy into a strong, godly man. Centuries ago, select boys went through a rigorous, years-long process of clearly defined objectives, goals, and ceremonies—with the hope of achieving knighthood. Along the way, they acquired a boldly masculine vision, an uncompromising code of conduct, and a noble cause in which to invest their lives. They were the heroes of their age.

Click here to buy Raising a Modern-Day Knight on Amazon


Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
Daniel Goleman

Everyone knows that high IQ is no guarantee of success, happiness, or virtue, but until Emotional Intelligence, we could only guess why. Daniel Goleman’s brilliant report from the frontiers of psychology and neuroscience offers startling new insight into our “two minds”—the rational and the emotional—and how they together shape our destiny. Through vivid examples, Goleman delineates the five crucial skills of emotional intelligence, and shows how they determine our success in relationships, work, and even our physical well-being. What emerges is an entirely new way to talk about being smart.

Click here to buy Emotional Intelligence on Amazon


The New One Minute Manager
Ken Blanchard & Spencer Johnson

This easily read story quickly demonstrates three very practical management techniques: One Minute Goals, One Minute Praisings, and One Minute Reprimands. The One Minute Manager also includes information on several studies in medicine and in the behavioural sciences, which help readers understand why these apparently simple methods work so well with so many people. The book is brief, the language is simple, and best of all…it works.

Click here to buy The New One Minute Manager on Amazon


Cultivating Communities of Practice
Etienne Wenger, Richard McDermott & William M. Snyder

Today’s economy is fuelled by knowledge. Every leader knows this to be true, yet few have systematic methods for converting organizational knowledge into economic value. This book argues that communities of practice — groups of individuals formed around common interests and expertise – provide the ideal vehicle for driving knowledge-management strategies and building lasting competitive advantage.

Click here to buy Cultivating Communities of Practice on Amazon


Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
Emerson Eggerichs

This revolutionary message cracks the communication code between husband and wife: that unconditional respect is as powerful for him as unconditional love is for her.

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Halftime: Changing Your Game Plan from Success to Significance
Bob Buford

Are you ready to move into the second half of your life? Bob Buford believes the second half of your life can be better than the first. Much better. But first, you need time to figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life. In Halftime, Buford focuses on this important time of transition—the time when, as he says, a person moves beyond the first half of the game of life. It’s halftime, a time of revitalization and for catching a new vision for living the second half, the half where life can be lived at its most rewarding.

Click here to buy Halftime on Amazon


He’ll Be OK: Growing Gorgeous Boys Into Good Men
Celia Lashlie

At last, a straight-talking book that takes parents into the mysterious world of boys. How do you raise boys to men in a world where trouble beckons at every turn? How do you make sure they learn the right lessons, stay out of danger, find a path to follow? How do you ensure they’ll be OK? Author Celia Lashlie has some of the answers. After years working in the prison service, she knows what can happen when boys make the wrong choices. Her insights into what boys need – and what parents can do to help them – are ground-breaking. In this honest, no-nonsense and best-selling book, Celia Lashlie reveals what goes on inside the world of boys, and that it is an entirely different world from that of girls.

Click here to buy He’ll Be OK on Amazon


Emotionally Healthy Spirituality
Peter Scazzero

In this revised bestselling book, Peter Scazzero outlines a roadmap for discipleship that is powerfully transformative. He unveils what’s wrong with our current definition of “spiritual growth” and offers not only a model of spirituality that actually works, but seven steps to change that will help you experience authentic faith and hunger for God.

Click here to buy Emotionally Healthy Spirituality on Amazon


The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It
Warren Farrell & John Gray

It’s a crisis of education. Worldwide, boys are 50 percent less likely than girls to meet basic proficiency in reading, math, and science. It’s a crisis of mental health. ADHD is on the rise. And as boys become young men, their suicide rates go from equal to girls to six times that of young women. It’s a crisis of fathering. Boys are growing up with less-involved fathers and are more likely to drop out of school, drink, do drugs, become delinquent, and end up in prison. It’s a crisis of purpose. Boys’ old sense of purpose—being a warrior, a leader, or a sole breadwinner—are fading. Many bright boys are experiencing a “purpose void,” feeling alienated, withdrawn, and addicted to immediate gratification. So, what is The Boy Crisis? A comprehensive blueprint for what parents, teachers, and policymakers can do to help our sons become happier, healthier men, and fathers and leaders worthy of our respect.

Click here to buy The Boy Crisis on Amazon

Videos

We host all of our publicly available videos on YouTube. You can stay up to date by clicking the following link: Subscribe to our YouTube channel.

The videos below are our first video series introducing fatherlessness, and what you can do to defeat it.

This video playlist we curated contains a number of the videos our trainers use regularly.

Training resources

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The Plug ‘n Play Project

The Plug ‘n Play project is a tool designed to help trainers and fathers around the world present the TWNAF content in any place with more confidence, guided by some of our best trainers from around the world.

— WARNING — This folder is around 25GB big. Only download it if you have the data and/or storage space on your device.

The videos on this page might load slowly if your internet connection is weak.
In that case, click on the “Watch on YouTube” button.

Hear and get inspired by the story that started it all from the founder of the movement, Cassie Carstens.

Discover the depth and magnitude of the problem of fatherlessness.

Virtually every major social pathology has been linked to fatherlessness. Find out more about how fatherlessness plagues society in this module.

Find out how father and mother wounds affect our current and potential leaders on a deep level, and some ways we can avoid leading from our woundedness.

Discover the three essential needs children have, and how not having those needs met can lead to a false self-concept later in life.

Learn about the wounds children experience due to absent or abusive fathers, and how those wounds can affect them as they grow up.

Do we have the moral will or drive to do something about the crisis of fatherlessness?

Discover the seven main seasons of life and why it is important to that each season is approached differently.

Learn why the first 1000 days in a child’s life are the most important for their development and what you can do as a parent to maximise their chances for success.

The mother has a massive role to play during the first 5 years of a child’s life. Discover the key things she needs to provide for her child during this time, and how she can give them.

The father is the primary formative figure from the ages of 6 – 11. Find out what the father needs to impart during these years, and why it is so critical.

Social media is a challenge every parent will have to face. Discover some useful tools for dealing with this reality with your children.

Your children will learn about sex from somewhere, probably before they are 10 years old (according to the research). Learn how you can approach this critical topic with your kids, and the benefit it can have for your relationship.

Discover an age-appropriate approach to introducing your children to faith, and how valuable a loving environment is as part of spiritual guidance.

Discover why the transitions your child goes through in this phase are so important, and how you can encourage them as you move from the role of embracer to that of a coach.

The rite of passage is an essential ceremony that empowers your child to move into the next phase of their life with confidence. Learn how to hold a meaningful rite of passage for your child.

Learn how to make the teenage years less of something to dread and more of an opportunity to develop a deep, lasting connection with your teen, while helping them grow in the process.

Talking with your children about the sexual and hormonal realities of life can be daunting, but they are critical conversations to have so that you can help your children celebrate the natural, healthy changes their bodies go through as they grow up.

Learn how your role as a parent changes yet again during this phase, and what you can do to help send them into adulthood as a confident, responsible individual.

Learn how you can help your young adults take the important risks that are critical for growth as they set out on the adventure of adult life.

The success season is full of drive and a yearning for achievement. Discover how to make the best of this phase, or help your children do the same.

As you leave your success season you enter halftime, which is a season that challenges you with new questions about life and what lies ahead. Learn what to look out for to make the best of this phase.

This can be the best season of your life! As you shift from achievement to development of others, you have a full life of experience to draw from and more capacity to invest in them. Learn the three key themes you should focus on that will help you launch into your next season.

The temptation is real to go into survival mode and make life and enjoyable as possible in this season, but no one retires from their calling. If you set yourself up right in the previous season, you will be excellently positioned to finalise your legacy and leave a fantastic example for the following generations.

The home you grew up in had a major impact on your development and the formation of your identity and worldview. Discover some of the core experiences that formed you during this time, and role your mother and father played during this time.

Not many parents know what their children need for optimum development during each season of their life, which leads to wound. Learn what the results can be from living with those wounds.

Mother wounds are often hidden in plain sight. Learn how to identify the symptom of these wounds so that you can get to the root and find healing.

Father wounds lead to serious deficiencies later in life. Learn how to identify the symptom of these wounds so that you can get to the root and find healing.

Once you have identified your wounds, it is critical to address them. Learn a few practices to help you address the wounds you have identified.

Forgiveness is probably the most underrated action a person can take. Discover the value of the process of forgiveness, and how it can set you free.

Identifying the wounds and forgiving your parents are the first steps. But the real change happens when we step into that forgiveness. Discover how you can do that, and the profound impact it can have on your life.

Men grow up with very different views of what real manhood looks like. Learn what a healthy, Biblical model of manhood looks like and how it can positively affect the world around you.

Discover the four main roles of fathers, and why each one is important.

Discover the main roles a mother plays in the house, and what and how important the team of three is.

Morality is to do the right thing at the right time for the right reason. Learn about the moral compass and how important it is when applying authoritative responsibility.

Clarity of conviction is a central aspect of moral authority. Discover the four main aspects of a crystal clear moral authority.

Learn what our primary calling is and how we should live it out.

Discover the difference between primary and secondary calling, how to identify yours and how to write a purpose mission statement.

Discover how living by the word and Spirit of God are the foundational building blocks for a father to live with moral authority.

Learn how to sharpen your conscience and bring your daily behaviour into synchronisation, which leads to living with moral authority.

Discover the importance of saying no, and how accountability and submission to mentorship helps.

Learn tools for navigating the challenging topic of discipline, and how healthy discipline leads to a thriving home life.

Discover a few disciplinary orientations and rules we recommend all parents apply.

Learn more about the critical function identity plays in shaping our behaviour, how our identity is formed and how we can shape it.

Discover how God sees us, and how we get stuck in the wrong mentality which leads to a confused identity, and how we can set it right.

Learn about the segregated self, how we often live from this segregation and how we can start living a more integrated identity, and the benefit that has on you and the people around you.

Discover the impact, power and joy of living from your true primary identity.

Discover how your values are formed, the impact they have on your life and how to choose a set of values that leads to a thriving life.

Discover the underestimated power of accountability, and how building a table of support will make your life better.

Discover the most common questions we get about mentoring, and how much value being involved in mentorship relationships can add to your life.

Learn about the six dimensions of life, and how the choices – intentional or otherwise – we make affects our lives, and how to make more intentional decisions in each of these areas.

Learn what the key building blocks are for creating an environment of safety, peace and stability in our homes.

Discover the three mistakes we make when trying to love, and what a superior love looks like instead.

Learn how much damage expectations can cause in any relationship, how they are contrary to the principles of love and what you can do about it.

Discover why divorce can be so harmful and why we should avoid it at all costs.

Discover what it means to be the leader of the emotional soup in your house, why it is important and how much it can influence your family.

Discover what the happy hormone cocktail is, and how you can ensure that it is served in your house regularly.

Learn what emotional intelligence is, the key components of it and why it is such a critical skill to develop.

Learn why living intentionally is so important, and discover some ways to go about doing so.

Discover why so much miscommunication happens in relationships, and how to avoid it.

Discover the four levels we communicate on, and why it is important to regularly communicate with your family on the deepest levels.

Discover why a father providing for his family is so important, and some of the ways he can contribute even if he isn’t the main breadwinner in the family.

Discover why affirmation is so critically important, and how you can go about affirming your children more effectively.

Learn what holistic affirmation looks like, as well as why it is critical to affirm the needs of each specific season of a child’s life.

Learn why the rite of passage is so valuable for your children, and how to hold a meaningful rite of passage for your child(ren).

Discover why affirmation is key in your child’s life, especially in a face of a world that is overwhelmingly negative.

At some point in life you have hurt your loved ones. Learn why restoring any damage you may have caused is so important, and how you can go about it.

Learn about the core roles a mother plays in the family, and why they are so important.

Unpack the primary mother roles in more detail, and how the mother and father’s roles complement each other.

Learn what a mentor family is, how it benefits the single mother tremendously and what you could do to become one.

Learn what TWNAF is, why we call ourselves a movement and the most important thing you can do as part of TWNAF.

Learn what a community of practice is, why it is so important in our context and how you can go about starting one.

Discover what a movement is and learn more about TWNAF as a movement, as well as the core DNA of our structure, how we’ve grown to have a footprint in over 100 countries and how you can become part of that movement.